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ARE YOU BEING STALKED?
Stalking is a series of actions that make you feel afraid or in danger. Stalking is serious, often violent, and can escalate over time.
Stalking is a crime. A stalker can be someone you know well or not at all. Most have dated or been involved with the people they stalk. Most stalking cases involve men stalking women, but men do stalk men, women do stalk women, and women do stalk men. If you are in immediate danger, call 911.
Some things stalkers do:
- Repeatedly calls you, including hang-ups.
- Follows you and shows up where ever you are.
- Sends unwanted gifts, letters, cards, or emails.
- Damages your home, car, or other property.
- Monitors your phone calls or computer use.
- Use technology, like hidden cameras or global positioning systems (GPS), to track where you go.
- Drives by or hangs out at your home, school, or work.
- Threaten to hurt you, your family, friends, or pets.
- Find out about you by using public records or on-line search services, hiring investigators, going through your garbage, or contacting friends, family, neighbors, or co-workers.
- Other actions that control, track, or frighten you.
Things You Can do:
- Stalking is unpredictable and dangerous. No two stalking situations are alike. There are no guarantees that what works for one person will work for another, yet you can take steps to increase your safety.
- Trust your instincts. Don’t downplay the danger. If you feel you are unsafe, you probably are.
- Take threats seriously. Danger generally is higher when the stalker talks about suicide or murder, or when a victim tries to leave or end the relationship.
- Contact a crisis hotline, victim services agency, or a domestic violence or rape crisis program. They can help you devise a safety plan, give you information about local laws, refer you to other services, and weigh options such as seeking a protection order. ARCS Legal Advocates are available to help you. Call 513-695-1886 or 888-860-4084 FREE for assistance.
- Develop a safety plan, including things like changing your routine, arranging a place to stay, and having a friend or relative go places with you. Decide in advance what to do if the stalker shows up at your home, work, school, or somewhere else. Tell people how they can help you.
- Don’t communicate with the stalker or respond to attempts to contact you.
- Keep evidence of the stalking. When the stalker follows you or contacts you, write down the time, date and place. Keep e-mails, phone messages, letters, or notes. Photograph anything of yours the stalker damages and any injuries the stalker causes. Ask witnesses to write down what they saw.
- Contact the police. Ohio, along with every state, has stalking laws. The stalker may also have broken other laws by doing things like assaulting you or stealing or destroying your property.
- Consider getting a court order that tells the stalker to stay away from you.
- Tell family, friends, roommates, and co-workers about the stalking and seek their support. Tell security staff at your job or school. Ask them to help watch out for your safety.
Ways to help a victim of stalking:
- Show support.
- Don’t blame the victim for the crime.
- Remember that every situation is different, and allow the person being stalked to make choices about how to handle it.
- Find someone you can talk to about the situation.
- Take steps to ensure your own safety.
ABUSE AND RAPE CRISIS SHELTER of WARREN COUNTY FOR ASSISTANCE WITH STALKING ORDERS, SAFETY PLANNING, STALKING JOURNAL AND REFERRALS.
Call our Legal Advocate Division at 513-695-1886
To learn more about stalking, visit the Stalking Resource Center Website, here.